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I saw another report this week warning of the dangers of becoming a parent later in life. Apparently, men who wait until they’re in their forties to become dads risk giving their children genetic disorders and developmental problems, from dwarfism to cleft palate. Maybe. But my parents already had three daughters, and had lost a son, when my mum became pregnant again; she was 45 and my dad 50. From what my sisters later told me (one of them had already left home), the news was not greeted with celebration. But, luckily, my parents rolled with it. And here I am, with many quirks and endless personal failings, none of which, sadly, I can pin on my parents.
So here’s what I know about having older parents: it is great. Mine knew how to navigate life; they were grounded; they allowed this accident to shape their lives. They were at a stage when long walks, trips to the beach and tending the garden were more their thing – they gave me an appreciation of much of this too. In their later years they allowed parenting to ease into something even richer: proper friendship. I didn’t have them in my life as long as my sisters did but no harm was done by them being older parents. So if you are contemplating becoming one yourself, go for it (just in case you have nothing planned for this afternoon).
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Tom Edwards, head of radio, has two young sons (both born in his youthful prime) and last week each of them drew a picture of him. One depicted him as a version of Superman; the other sketch was harder to work out. “What am I doing here?” Tom asked his son. “Taking the bins out,” said his son. Good to know how your children see you.
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I try to get back to everyone who has a question, comment or complaint about Monocle. Last weekend someone wrote to say that my waywardness with pronouns was shocking and off-putting. Another person was angered that we had told you about Monocle’s 15th anniversary party when there was a war raging in Ukraine. On the pronouns, the correspondent is correct: sometimes in this column I get a little casual and break some grammatical rules – perhaps I could blame this on developmental issues from having older parents. And should we have told you about the party? I think so. But while consensus is great and I am happy to explain how we came to editorial decisions, sometimes you wonder what people see when they read Monocle. Twice now, people have raised with me that we have writers with Russian names; even asking about their connections back in the motherland. One of them said that she would no longer read Monocle’s newsletters. So that’s something good that happened this week.
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And then another email. This one is from a Ukrainian living in Sweden thanking Monocle for all our coverage of what’s happening in his native country. But it’s the picture that he’s attached that hits me. It’s a photograph taken by a friend of his in Kyiv, an entrepreneur and local politician now in the territorial forces. On top of a copy of our book How to Make a Nation sits a rifle.
We have never been naïve about how states are made and secured; it’s why Monocle has, since Issue 01, covered defence issues, embedded with armies and visited arms fairs. Still, it’s sobering to see this celebration of soft power, diplomacy and national branding sitting with a potent emblem of the need for it to be backed up by hard power too. It’s the kind of letter to the editor that makes you realise what extraordinary (and demanding) people read Monocle.
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And, finally, next weekend we – Tyler Brûlé, yours truly and other Monocle staff – will be in St Moritz for The Monocle Weekender. It kicks off on Friday and runs all the way through to Sunday morning, with panels, revelry and plenty of time to debate everything happening in the world. Join us. Head to monocle.com/events to find out what’s in store.