Opinion / Nihal Arthanayake
Matters of fact
In his book Starry Messenger, US astrophysicist Neil DeGrasse Tyson wrote, “To deny objective truths is to be scientifically illiterate, not to be ideologically principled.” It is a sentence that also sums up the past few years of political discourse in the West. We live in strange times shaped by our need to broadcast our firmly held beliefs into the world and give equal billing to opinions and facts. Certain politicians, commentators, news anchors and anyone with a social-media account have made a virtue of “plain speaking” and “telling it like it is” instead of evidence-based observation.
An absolute belief in the truth of your position is a barrier to constructive conversation. The triumph of ideology over pragmatism in public discourse has left reason in ruins. People who cling to the mast of their own opinion risk not only drowning but also dragging the entire ship of public discourse into the unedifying depths of ignorance.
My book Let’s Talk – How to Have Better Conversations could have been called Let’s Listen and the message is as geopolitical as it is personal. Prioritising conversation can be as easy as moving your phone out of your field of vision the next time you sit down to dinner with a friend. I’m not a Luddite who lives off-grid but I’ve seen the research indicating that this simple act can increase the quality of your conversation. You’re deciding to value the person you’re with more than a notification about a dog in a costume or the latest prime-ministerial resignation.
As many in the UK today contend with poisonous political debate and a lack of clear leadership in government, we need to find consensus around how to have better conversations. My advice? Listen, seek out new ideas and remember: not everyone can be right.
Nihal Arthanayake is a broadcaster and presenter on BBC Radio 5 Live. This essay appears in ‘The Monocle Companion: Fifty Essays for a Brighter Future’, which is out this week.